The last key I want to talk about in the realm of being the spiritual leader of our homes is Family Worship. The words Family Worship often strike fear in our minds. I believe it is because we picture our families sitting in the living room, mother playing on the piano and father trying to lead the children in singing. My hope is that I can dispense some of this fear and help us all with the idea of Family Worship because I believe it is a vital part of spiritually leading our families.
I see and practice with my family two forms of Family Worship – Planned and Spontaneous. Deut. 6 reminds us that leading our families spiritually in worship of our creator should invade every aspect of our lives. When we lead our families in worship it should be a natural thing. So here is what I mean by the Planned approach.
Planned Family Worship:
We as spiritual leaders need to be gathering our families together. I know we are all busy but we will make time for what we feel is most important. So look at your week and see when you could carve out sometime to sit down as a family. Your schedule may work best to have a breakfast family worship but for others it might be after supper or before bed. Our goal during these times should be to turn our children’s hearts and minds toward God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. Here are a few ideas we have used or have heard that work well for others.
Preschool:
1) Read to them – There are some great books such as the Jesus Story Book Bible, The Big Picture Bible, Big Thoughts for Little Thinkers, etc. We have typically used our bedtime routine to include reading and talking with our preschoolers.
2) The Gospel Project I-Pad App: Our church uses the Gospel Project for our elementary ministry called Bethel Kids. There is a great app that we found for the Gospel Project and the app has a preschool and an elementary version. The app includes videos, puzzles, trivia, etc. We have been trying to use the app during our dinner time.
3) Take Home Stuff: Our preschool ministry called Snap Shots does an excellent job of letting us as parents know what is being taught and how we might continue the teachable moments at home. Our children are given a memory verse, table talk questions, etc. These are great and can be used anytime and any place, such as driving down the road, before bed, at bath time, etc.
Elementary:
1) New City Catechism I-Pad App. Timothy Keller and Sam Shammas have created a kid-friendly app for families. This is a great app that can be used in teaching our children about who God is and what He has done. This app will allow you to track several children at a time or to lead your family through. This would be a great additional to breakfast, driving in the car or before bed.
2) The Gospel Project I-Pad App: Our church uses the Gospel Project for our elementary ministry called Bethel Kids. There is a great app that we found for the Gospel Project and the app has a preschool and an elementary version. The app includes video, puzzles, trivia, etc. We have been trying to use the app during our dinner time.
3) ESV Grow! Bible: is designed specifically to reach children ages 8–12 for the time between when they use a children’s Bible and a more advanced Bible. Coupling the full ESV text with many helpful features, this is a Bible that young students can call their own. The ESV Grow! Bible comes with all-new features to help children learn and understand God’s Word. Nearly every other page features a “W Question”, boxes answering the who, what, where, when, or why of a text—basic questions a child might have while reading. Introductions to each Bible book, charts, and maps help young readers understand the themes, characters, and context of Scripture. 45 “Cross Connections” explain how certain Bible passages point to Christ and 90 “4U” sections explain and apply texts to the child’s life. In addition, articles about Jesus and the teachings of the Christian faith help children understand important theological concepts. You could set up a reading chart that you and your child follow and discuss at various times.
4) Faith at Home Questions: Each week we try to publish questions to families under the title of Faith at Home. These questions will go along with that weeks sermon. These questions could be used on the drive home, over lunch or any other time during the week.
Junior High/Middle School:
1) ESV Grow! Bible: is designed specifically to reach children ages 8–12 for the time between when they use a children’s Bible and a more advanced Bible. Coupling the full ESV text with many helpful features, this is a Bible that young students can call their own. The ESV Grow! Bible comes with all-new features to help children learn and understand God’s Word. Nearly every other page features a “W Question”, boxes answering the who, what, where, when, or why of a text—basic questions a child might have while reading. Introductions to each Bible book, charts, and maps help young readers understand the themes, characters, and context of Scripture. 45 “Cross Connections” explain how certain Bible passages point to Christ and 90 “4U” sections explain and apply texts to the child’s life. In addition, articles about Jesus and the teachings of the Christian faith help children understand important theological concepts. You could set up a reading chart that you and your child follow and discuss at various times.
2) New City Catechism I-Pad App. Timothy Keller and Sam Shammas have created a kid-friendly app for families. This is a great app that can be used in teaching our children about who God is and what He has done. This app will allow you to track several children at a time or to lead your family through. This would be a great additional to breakfast, driving in the car or before bed.
3) The Gospel Project I-Pad App: There is a great student version for the Gospel Project for the i-pad and smart phones. This app allows the students to have a daily reading plan along with questions. This would be something I would recommend the parents follow along with their student so they could have some planned discussions.
High School:
1) New City Catechism I-Pad App. Timothy Keller and Sam Shammas have created a kid-friendly app for families. This is a great app that can be used in teaching our children about who God is and what He has done. This app will allow you to track several children at a time or to lead your family through. This would be a great additional to breakfast, driving in the car or before bed.
2) The Gospel Project I-Pad App: There is a great student version for the Gospel Project for the i-pad and smart phones. This app allows the students to have a daily reading plan along with questions. This would be something I would recommend the parents follow along with their student so they could have some planned discussions.
3) ESV Study Bible: I would highly recommend every family owning a copy of the ESV Study Bible. One of the ideas you could use as a planned teachable time are the resources in the back. You could have your student talk about issues such as The Bible and how we get the books that are in there, Character of God, The Trinity, Creation, Sin, Abortion, Marriage and Divorce, Homosexuality, Government, etc. These sections will give you some great information to talk about.
I do believe that our families need us to lead them in planned times where we turn off the TV, put the cell phones away and turn our minds and hearts toward who God is and what He has done. But as I said in the beginning, it should be a natural part of our lives. So family worship can also be spontaneous. Times where we can have what I like to call a faith talks. There are teachable moments all around us. Your children will see and experience things and we need to be ready to capitalize on those moments.
Here are some examples.
When we are having to talk to our children about making right decisions make sure we take the opportunity to talk about the decision that God made to create us and to send His son to save us.
When we are having to talk to our children about forgiving others. Make sure we are ready to teach them that God forgive us.
When our teenagers suffer mistreatment from friends, these are moments that God wants us to speak truth into them about their identity in Christ.
There will be countless moments to teach our children and teenager but we must be watching for them.
The truth is no one is perfect at leading their families because I know I am not. If we could lead our families perfectly they may not need a Savior. But because we are not perfect we must rely on the truth of the Gospel to guide us. So my last word of encouragement is just to start. You may feel awkward at first and sometimes it will feel like an utter failure but I promise you that God will be faithful and your family will see you trying to lead them.
I would love to visit or correspond with you if you have any questions and I would love to hear what you are doing with your family in the area of Family Worship.